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Ryan DeLuca
Jan 29, 2019
ENG 123
Dr Drown
A covering is when you hide your true self in order to blend in or please someone around you. Say you may be going out to dinner with someone and you usually eat with you mouth open so you would cover that up in order to please the person you are eating dinner with even though that is a personal trait. Yoshino Says covering is “to tone down a disfavored identity to fit into the mainstream. I think covering is a way for people to protect them self from being outed by family and friends or a group that they have been a part of there whole life but they don’t like a certain trait.
According to D.W. Winnicott “The true self is is the self that gives and individual the feeling of being real, which is more than existing; it is finding a way to exist as oneself, and to relate to object as oneself, and to have self into which to retreat for relaxation.” He also adds “Only the True Self can be creative and only the True Self can be real.” What D.W. Winnicott says about the “False Self”’ is “The False Self, in contrast, gives an individual a sense of being unreal, a sense of futility. It mediates the relationship between the True Self and the world.” What I think may be positive about the False self is you would avoid being seen as your True Self, you may have a really piss pore attitude but you really don’t want people to know that so you change your attitude, or you also way be an addicted to a drug but you don’t want the people around you to know that so you hide your scars or wear make up to fix the discoloration in your skin. You may seem to be a down to earth person who seems to be real with everyone and part of the “mainstream” but like Yoshino says “In our increasingly diverse society, all of us are outside the mainstream in some way or another.” I think in order to stop this “covering” we need to address what people’s belief’s, people grow up in many different situations with many different parenting styles most parents try and teach their kids that making fun of other people for having an unpopular opinion is bad but can be taught the other way around as well. Some if not most of the discrimination and suppuration that happens today is taught but parents or peers around them. The way discrimination may be taught around peers is, we will use the “false self” example, say you are new to a school and are trying to make friends and mostly everyone you meet acts all nice and such, you become close to this group of friends and they share an opinion that is unpopular to you, but is popular to them, so with a fear of being outed you change your opinion to the unpopular one creating your false self.
